Looking back now it seems ridiculous that I was ever worried about the size of my penis, but there you have it. Probably just about every man alive has wished he had a bigger penis at some time or other, in the same way that a lot of girls probably wish they had bigger breasts.

There is an awful lot of secrecy, misinformation and exaggeration around the issue of penis size. The widely accepted 'average' is 6 inches (15cm) but the Kinsey Report quotes more realistically that anything from 5 to 7 inches is around average, with average being a sliding scale.

The fact is penis size is pretty unimportant to most women. Ask a woman and she will probably care far more about how good you are at kissing, caressing and other techniques of foreplay and love making than how big your penis is.

At 18cm (7.1") fully erect, my penis is above average length according to most surveys (or at the upper end of average).

The standard way to measure you penis is standing or kneeling, as fully erect as possible, point your penis straight ahead, parallel with the floor. Measure along the top from up against the pubic bone to the tip. Take care to use a ruler/tape for which zero is at the end.

Arguably more important than length is circumference, for which I measure in at 14cm around the thickest section of the shaft (around 7 or 8cm up from the base in me). This value is about statistically average for girth, figures between 12 and 14cm have been arrived at by various surveys as a likely range. Of course different shaped penises will be thickest at different points along the shaft. My penis measures equal girth around the corona of the glans as at the thickest part of the shaft.

Bell curve distribution for penis size (example only)

Surveys reveal that erect penis size fits a classic bell curve distribution. This means that most men fall somewhere in the middle range (average) with progressively less and less at the extremes (very big and very small).

Sex and penis size

Being about average girth means that I've never slept with a girl and had her complain that it was TOO big. The extra length is frequently noticed in positions where penetration is deep, such as doggie style and other rear entry positions. Unbridled thrusting hits against the cervix pushing it upwards and most women find this uncomfortable or painful.

The solution is to not thrust so deeply and control the depth to which thrusting penetrates. My partner enjoys doggie style but she's always dubious about my ability to 'control myself' and not hurt her.

Men with very large, thick penises may encounter women for whom accommodating their penis is uncomfortable or even downright painful. This is especially true when sex is hurried and the woman is not fully aroused before attempting intercourse.

Some girls are tighter than others and in the past I have had to take care. Taking it slowly, paying attention to all her erogenous zones, performing oral sex on her while she becomes fully aroused has always made penetration go smoothly and easily.

Penis size has physically very little to do with a woman's sexual pleasure, most of her sensitive nerve endings are located around her clitoris and the entrance to her vagina. In many instances having a bigger penis may be a hindrance more than a help in the bedroom.

Personally I prefer not to use artificial lubricants. If my partners vagina isn't wet enough to make sex easy and enjoyable perhaps she's not really in the mood? We use the contraceptive pill at the moment and don't use condoms, so my pre-cum and her vaginal wetness combined is mostly more than adequate. If things are a bit tight down below a little saliva (this can be applied direct from mouth to vulva) is usually all that's required to get things started.

*Important*

If using condoms I DO recommend a good water based lubricant.